On parenting
"It doesn't get easier. Just different." I don't know who first said this to me, but I can remember the sound of her voice and the feeling of my heart deflating. Whoever she was, is ahead of me in this grueling marathon and would know. Some things do get easier. Remembering the newborn sleep deprivation, the dark abyss of giving up on naptime, the 24/7 watchful eye, the exhausting endless playtime with a side of guilt over wishing for a moment to myself, and oh the bodily fluids. (Not mine.) In general, these super-hard parts of being a Mama don't plague me quite so much anymore. But as one challenge vanishes, a new one always arises. A more grown-up-kid, less-decidedly black-and-white one. And the thing is, no one asks. It would be the real-life game of Would you Rather : a) constantly patrol Youtube for inappropriate content or b) have someone at the door listening every time you go number two. But you don't even get a vote. Which really doesn...